Which vegetable wears the strap-on?

Today is the day that I can officially say that I have made a harness. A beautiful, made-with my own hands bike-tube harness.

The harness that my girlfriend and I were using was looking a bit old, but we loved the design and couldn't find quality harnesses, especially at a good price. So I set out on the challenge. Strangely finding the buckles was the hardest part. With a little bit of trial and error I had finished my awesome self-made harness.

I am all about doing projects, DIY, cheap alternatives, and of course sex toys so naturally this will go to the top of my bragging list.


And because a lesbian telling dildo jokes is always funny:

My boi

I want to introduce my wonderful girlfriend. This is us on our first New Years Eve together ( I was attempting a mohawk, and clearly was failing). She is sweet, silly, handsome and one of the most caring people I have ever met. We fit each other so perfectly, I could hardly see any other match.

She identifies as genderqueer, and I can attest that she falls very much in the middle of the gender spectrum. She works in a cider warehouse, wears all men's clothing and approaches thing in a very straight-forward fashion. However she can also be giggly, loves gushy romanticism and could cook, clean and garden all day.

Continuing on I hope to write some pieces on what it means to be genderqueer as well as the experience of having a genderqueer partner. There will probably also be dozens of posts about how damn cute she is.

We are not post-homophobia

I woke up this morning and watched a little BBC, read some autostraddle, pretty much the usual slow-mornign routine. One article about Ellen Degeneres and Ellen page caught my eye. I find it to be a great article about how yes, we have come a long way with LGBT rights, but that is no reason to belittle the personal struggle that LGBT individuals still face.

I believe Riese says it well:

"Despite the gravity of this revelation and the long road we’ve traversed from the Ellen I grew up with to the Ellens who inspire young people today, many straight people have responded rudely to her speech with “Yeah, duh” and “Why is this news”? I am wary of these people. I fear they don’t realize that the fight is far from over — that gay kids are still getting kicked out of their homes, gay teenagers are still getting cut out of their families, that job and housing discrimination remains legal in most states, that hate crimes still happen, that gay kids are getting bullied and killing themselves, that 92% of American LGBT youth say they hear negative messages about being LGBT and 42% say they live in an area that isn’t accepting of LGBT people. Remember that it was a flood of press coverage around the suicides of young gay people that jump-started the flood of prominent personalities coming out to begin with. Remember that devastation.

Ellen Page said she’d been scared to reveal her truth, and way too many people responded with, ”In other news, the sky is blue.” The fact that so many felt comfortable being that rude to someone who’d just publicly shared a private struggle speaks volumes about how important they consider the issues of gay women to be. We should be wary of these people. People like them are why so many believe this country is post-racial or post-feminist when this country is racist as fuck and hates women.

This country loves to pass a few laws and then declare everything officially fixed forever. This country has a short memory. It belittles the struggles of the disempowered and we see it happen every day when people who experience racism or sexism are usually told by alleged allies that their own account of their own oppression is irrelevant and overdramatic. That dismissal from alleged allies hasn’t happened on a large scale to the LGBT community quite yet, but it could get there sooner than you think, and that could happen before “the LGBT community as a whole” has really even begun to give the issues of queers of color, trans* people, and all overlaps therein, their proper attention."

http://www.autostraddle.com/a-tale-of-two-ellens-224185/


This is a sentiment that hits close to home as well. I did not fully realize my sexuality or come out until about a year ago. While I considered myself a sympathetic ally, I don't think I realized the real struggle until I was faced with it myself. While I appreciate my peers speaking up about how we still need marriage equality, I want to turn around to them and say "that is only one tiny part of the issue!" What about the fact that none of the jobs I am looking at will cover my same-sex partners health insurance? What about the fact that my genderqueer girlfriend constantly feels pulled between the social expectations of both genders? Don't get me wrong, I am so proud of the progress we have made and give full credit to those who endured and fought for it, but I believe we need to step up and continue to fight.

Gay Artist: Jay Brannan

I am not quite sure what it is, but somehow I feel like when something good is also queer it makes it just that much better. Like if I find out that someone with an oh-so-sexy voice is also singing about the boy he's chasing I basically fall in love.

One such singer for me is Jay Brannan. His songs are primarily focus of the the vocals with a roughly strummed acoustic guitar to go along with it. A good portion of his song have gay themes and they are all perfect songs to sing along with. Also, if you have seen Shortbus then you will recognize him as Ceth, who sings to James and Jamie.

Here is one of my faves: enjoy!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lNxzFPTA1y4

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Hello Blogosphere

Hello Internet,
Today marks the day that I will begin on my next blog journey. I am continuing this blog from one I started about a year ago, but this one will have a bit of a different focus, and some old posts may deleted. I first started a blog during a period when I was struggling. I was in the midst of a health crisis, an identity crisis and figuring out my first queer relationship. Writing helped me tremendously, and I want to continue with it.
    Now, this blog will focus on anything queer related. My personal journey. My relationship. Sex. The harnesses and sex toys I am currently creating and selling. Anything that I would find interesting when I am in a gay mood and browsing the web.
    I hope that eventually someone will benefit from my writing, but in the meantime I will write for myself, to document my journey and remind myself of all of the reasons why it is awesome to be queer.
<3 Megs